Not all forms of motherhood come with cribs and diapers. Some come with memory, with freedom, and the fire of having loved many times before. This post isn’t an answer — it’s a space for those who love children… but don’t feel the call to have their own.
I saw a reel that said many women who don’t have children might be in their last reincarnation — because they no longer need that experience to evolve. And it stopped me. Not just because of the theory, but because I saw myself in it.
And that made me reflect on my own truth…
I’m the kind of woman who melts with kids.
I connect with them easily, I understand them, and I feel the urge to protect them effortlessly.
I’m that aunt, that friend, that woman who knows how to read a child’s soul without needing words.
And yet, I’ve never felt that deep fire to be a mother.
I’ve never had that urgent impulse, or that fear of “time slipping away,” or that emptiness many women feel when they can’t have children.
Quite the opposite.
I’ve always seen it as something that might happen — but it never defined who I am.
And sometimes I’ve wondered if that’s wrong, if it makes me incomplete, if one day I’ll regret it.
Because that fear creeps in — silently — every time I hear someone say:
“You’ll understand when you become a mom.”
But I’ve understood so much without being one.
I’ve helped others heal.
I’ve nurtured projects, dogs, loves, and broken parts of myself.
And all of that… has also been a form of motherhood.
Going deeper…
1. The woman who’s already been a mother many times
There are souls who’ve brought children into the world again and again.
They’ve birthed, raised, lost, fought.
They’ve known the pain and glory of motherhood in times of war, poverty, and silence.
And when a life comes where the soul is tired of giving without receiving — this happens to you:
You love children, you understand them, you connect with them so naturally… but you don’t feel a deep call to become a mother.
That’s not coldness.
It’s hard-earned freedom.
2. The woman who came to break the cycle
In many ancestral lines, motherhood was not a choice — it was an obligation.
It existed to fulfill a role, preserve a name, fill voids, or follow rules.
And when a woman is born who says:
“I choose myself first. I want to live fully.”
That woman is not failing — she’s freeing.
Maybe I came to break the inheritance of “a woman is only valuable if she’s a mother.”
And that’s not selfishness — it’s internal revolution.
It’s conscious love.
3. Symbolic motherhood
There are women who don’t have children, but are mothers to the collective soul.
Healers. Guides. Guardians of dogs, patients, ideas, words.
They create spaces where others are reborn.
Maybe I’m one of them.
My motherhood has no diapers or cribs — it holds fire, memory, and words… and a pack that grows in the unseen.
That’s not selfishness…
It’s wisdom.
4. And what if I regret it later?
That fear is valid.
But it doesn’t come from my soul — it comes from the societal whisper that says you’re worth more if you give birth.
But here’s what matters:
I AM giving birth.
To myself.
To my freedom.
To my legacy.
To my fire.
To this space at Torita Vibes.
If this message reaches you…
And you too have felt that love for children — but without the call to have your own…
I want you to know you’re not broken.
You’re not incomplete.
You are not less of a woman.
Your way of loving also leaves a mark.
And maybe, just maybe, your soul already walked that path… and now came to complete it with peace.
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